We often spend a lot of time punishing ourselves for the things we think we haven’t done well. Maybe it’s something we ate or didn’t eat or maybe it’s something we said or didn’t say, did or didn’t do. Whatever it is, we’re hard on ourselves. That mindset doesn’t often serve us though.
Think about trying to motivate someone else. Would you tell them everything that they’ve done wrong in order to get them to do the thing you want them to do? Probably not. In class, we don’t yell at you for not trying hard enough or skipping a sprint. We applaud you and cheer you on for what you’re doing well and it helps motivate you to push harder and get that one last rep in because you've got a cheerleader on your side and you know and they know that you’ve got it.
Now go back to the way you talk to yourself. Have you been hard on yourself? Is it serving you and helping you achieve your goals? Probably not. Time to be conscious about what’s not working. The reason we often are not reaching our goals is not because we can’t control how many cookies we eat or that we don’t have time to work out. It’s the way we are treating ourselves. Instead of writing our New Year’s Resolution for 2018 in pounds or cupcakes or couch time, make a new type of resolution for 2018. Make a resolution to celebrate yourself and all of the great things you do and the good decisions you make for yourself.
Crowd out the punishing thoughts with motivating ones. Think about how you would celebrate with your friend if they told you they made it to the gym four times this week. Celebrate those wins for yourself this year and we’ll be here to celebrate them with you.